5 steps to a more confident you


There are many benefits that go hand-in-hand with being more confident. As well as having greater self-worth, confident individuals tend to experience more happiness, enjoyment, and freedom as the result of higher self-esteem and self-assurance. The more confident you are, the better you will be at handling, learning from and benefitting from all situations. That includes those times that strike fear and anxiety into less confident people.

Reading this and not feeling as confident as you’d like to be? Don’t worry, people aren’t born confident. Confidence develops, taking a dip for many individuals during their teenage years and early adulthood.

Whatever your age or current self-esteem levels, becoming a more confident you is possible. Read our five steps to increasing self-confidence.

Tackle difficulties head on

Most people’s confidence issues arise due to a single or series of negative experiences. By tackling these difficulties head on you can hone a better frame of mind and let self-esteem grow.

Bullying, abuse, job loss, unemployment, ongoing stress, physical illness, mental health problems, and relationship issues are just some of the difficult experiences individuals may face during their lifetimes. By identifying these negative life events, recognising how you felt during these difficult experiences and making changes to challenge these feelings, you can break the habit and feel better about yourself.

Change your inner monologue

Self-talk is one thing that can put you down even in the midst of the most positive experiences. Humans are their own worst critics but by changing your inner monologue to a more optimistic speaking voice, you can positively impact your self-esteem. Psychology Today provides some great advice for those looking to replace the critic within:

“The best way to defeat the critic is to have an even stronger ally on your side. You need to grow an inner voice that acts as your own best friend. In order to do this, you need to start noticing the good things about yourself. No matter what the inner critic has told you, you do have positive traits, although it may take you some effort to retrain yourself to see them.”

Learn to say “no”

Learning to be assertive not just with your inner self but with those around you will help you feel more liberated. Too many people overstretch themselves in their mission to please others. It’s important to ensure that you please yourself too. Learn to say “no”, set boundaries and take control of your own decisions to become a more confident and assertive person.

Connect with the world around you

Enjoying positive experiences helps to grow a more confident persona. Spend more time with the people who love you and doing the things that you are most passionate about. Many people looking to boost confidence levels often find that setting themselves a challenge helps to spark a renewed level of motivation.

Take up a hobby, join a class or volunteer your time to a cause you’re passionate about. This will challenge you positively both physically and mentally.

Don’t be afraid to share

Feeling low and unhappy with yourself? You don’t have to deal with these feelings alone. Talking to your family and friends about how you feel will lift a weight off your shoulders and help you reassess how you see yourself. Remember, it’s ok not to be perfect.

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